An explanation about over-explanation

If there's one thing I can't stand, it's miscommunication. So many problems can be solved through understanding. Not to sound like a dirty hippy, but it's true. And, being someone who has trouble with verbal communication, it's extremely important to me to make myself clear. I don't know what made me think about this point today, but it's become a subject that I still struggle with. I often, in an attempt to make my position understood, stick my foot in my mouth. This happens because things can sound differently in your head, and when you say them out loud, you realize how wrong they sound, but then it's too late. The only person who has understood that about me was my friend and ex-girlfriend, Brandi. She, at least, knew this, so with her if I said something I didn't mean to, I could retract and she would know that was the case. I understand that's a very difficult thing for people to accept. In general, if I'm angry about something, I don't talk about it while I'm upset because I will end up saying something I don't mean. I would prefer to calm down and figure out the exact reason why I'm upset so I can effectively deal with the situation. And it drives me nuts when someone doesn't understand my position. How can you have a meaningful discussion with someone or get anything accomplished if the other person doesn't understand your point of view? Again, don't know what brought this up. It's not actually relevant to anything currently going on. Just something I think about a lot.

For Brandi(I actually hate Vespas. And I'm sure I'll get a lecture on how this isn't a Vespa,)